Good Life for Men

A good life for men is what I want.  For me, for my son, brother and friends.  And for you.

But what exactly is a good life and why is it different for men, than women?

Instead of listening to your mother, your grandmother, your women classmates, your women teachers and women in the media telling you, a man, what makes a good life for you, listen to your own voice.

And listen to men who are living a good life for men telling you what they do and think, why could I not do that too?


From Danger and Play

The First Mistake You Make as a Man

Some excellent advice from Mike.


I have been searching for ideas, advice and guidance for years.  And without this guidance I would have stayed foundering as a verbally abused man with no control over my life and a future that I did not want.

Basics of a Good Life For Men

After all my research, reading and soul searching, I think I have a pretty good idea of what works for me. 

These are the Basics of a Good Life for Men

  • You Are Not pushed Around
  • You Have Plenty of Money
  • You Have Plenty of Free Time
  • You Are Fit...Enough
  • You Feel Good

Once you can get these basic parts of your life handled or be on the way to handling them, a good life just naturally clicks into place.  It has too because these things are the essence of a good life.  Once you get out of the struggle of always doing what someone else tells you to do, you have time to do what you want to do.

You Are Not pushed Around

Some of your childhoods were quite miserable

This is first because it is most important.  There is no way for you to have any type of a good life if most of the time you are pushed around by whoever.  At any age this is wrong.  Getting pushed around, being bullied, being manipulated and coerced is the way of the world.

But not for you.

Let's look at the list of the people that are eager to push you around

  • Your parents.  One or both.
  • Your siblings
  • Your classmates
  • Your friends
  • Your teachers
  • Your coaches
  • Your religion
  • Your school
  • Your boss
  • Your co-workers
  • Your Media
  • Your government
  • Your girlfriend
  • Your wife
Loving wife...NOT

People are eager, clamoring, crawling over themselves to tell you what to do, when to do it, how you are doing it wrong, and all the bad consequences to you if you don' t start falling into line, doing what they say.

I really don't get why they feel this incredibly intense feeling to run the lives of someone else.  But they do.  You know this is true.

I got sick of living this way...so I don't anymore.

It is not easy.  I had to quit a long line of things in order to get this way.  I had to stay vigilant, mysterious, keep my head down, leave a wife, quit jobs, ignore people, stay away from others, plug away with my life and get enraged all to not be pushed around.

But it is worth it.

Plenty of Money

You need plenty of money to have a good life.  It is not possible to be happy long term if you struggle to pay your bills, continually make do, have few of your needs met and can rarely afford to have fun.

You can be happy short term without money.  You can have a happy childhood without money, as long as someone else is paying your bills.

You can have a happy life as an adult, as long as someone else is paying your bills.

You can even have a happy life in the short term with very little money, but this would mean you live in an extremely limited way.  Long term this is no way to live.

I don't think you want to live this way.  You will be happier with money than without it, happier without debt because money does buy happiness.

I think you agree that you need at least a certain amount of money to be able to have a chance to do much of what you want to do with minimal straining financially.

The extent of money, yearly income, savings, investments, debt is, of course, somewhat flexible. You don't have to break your back.

Plenty of Free Time

Yes, most of us need to work to pay our bills, take care of our responsibilities, not be a burden on society and have some fun.  And the way it to earn this income is to work and that takes time.

But the best types of jobs have plenty of time off and other quality of life benefits.

It's not just working for a living either.  Relationships with the wrong people take up an enormous amount of time.  When I was married I stayed up late, got up early, did what she said all weekend and basically bent over backwards trying to please her. 

I like working, contributing, building a better world, but I don't need to do that all the time.  My other interests take time too.

Fit...Enough

I say fit enough because sometimes over exercising ruins your life.

Marathon training, long daily workouts, exercising multiple times a day will all take up your precious free time leaving you broken and in pain with not much of a life.

But...

When you are so overweight that doing anything physical is out of the question, you know you have to do something about it.

When you are so weak you cannot really do anything, you have to do something about it.

When you hurt all the time, you have to find relief.

This is your life, you have to do whatever it takes to live it on your terms and be fit enough for your life.

Feel good

You need to keep changing whatever it is you are doing until you feel good.  Feeling good is the key to your happiness and health.

You have to make your needs, and your biggest need is to feel good, a priority.

If something is not working...stop it.

If someone is bothering you...deal with it.  You may need to leave that person.

If your life is amiss, you cannot stick your head in the sand and expect that a good life for men will happen.  Your life can only be as good as your attention and concentration on doing the things that make you happy and that make you feel good.

Good Life For Men - Video

I just love this video and song.  It makes me feel good.  So I watch...and listen whatever makes a good life for men.

Good Life For Men - Lyrics to One, by U2

One -By U2

Is it getting better
Or do you feel the same
Will it make it easier on you
Now you got someone to blame

You say
One love
One life
When it's one need
In the night
It's one love
We get to share it
It leaves you baby
If you don't care for it

Did I disappoint you?
Or leave a bad taste in your mouth?
You act like you never had love
And you want me to go without

Well it's too late
Tonight
To drag the past out
Into the light
We're one
But we're not the same
We get to carry each other
Carry each other
One

Have you come here for forgiveness
Have you come to raise the dead
Have you come here to play Jesus
To the lepers in your head
Did I ask too much
More than a lot
You gave me nothing
Now it's all I got
We're one
But we're not the same
We hurt each other
Then we do it again

You say
Love…

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