Would you like to be a happier man
Do You Believe That Happiness Is
Do you think that your life matters? Can you change the mindset forced on you of struggle, suffering and sacrifice to a mindset of a life how you want it, filled with abundance and happiness?
In spite of thousands of years of propaganda saying you don't matter...you do.
We are told we are just specks of dust and it does not
matter what we do or don't do because we will all be dead anyway. We are told our reward for
a lifetime of unhappiness, misery and toil will be in the afterlife. We are told struggle and sacrifice are noble.
Your church, your government, your parents, your siblings, your teachers, your friends and the media all say you don't matter.
Do you believe them?
Or do you think that constantly being told that you don't matter is just a way for others to easily manipulate you into giving up your life and happiness to them?
You can change your beliefs to thinking that your life and your happiness is all that matters and it is all that will ever matter to you.
That is what I believe...now... after decades of the opposite.
My Childhood and Early Years
I was the good little boy, going to school, working hard, staying out of trouble, forced to go to boring activities.
My high school years were like an endless procession of frustrations ...being bullied and pushed around by coaches and bad guys, lack of female attention, ridicule, worry about fitting in, boredom, overwork, pain and even more wasted time doing even more things I did not want to do.
In college I worked extremely hard on non-relevant courses, leaving little time for fun.
After graduation I went on for even more college in an even more demanding subject I had no aptitude or interest in. All my college years I struggled with a lack of money, anxiety over homework and tests, career prospects, not much fun, a lack of sex and body image issues.
My first job out of college was a normal job with average pay dominated by tedious, boring work and a work environment demanding strict adherence to the clock.
In spite of the work, I actually found some of the happiness I was searching for in my mid-twenties.
Back to What They Say is Normal
But I could not relax and enjoy what I had. I felt out of alignment with the rest of the world. Instead of continuing this free lifestyle of an abundance of money, time, fun and happiness I fell back on the normal life programming script.
I got married at the normal time in my late twenties. I bought the little old starter house that everyone insists you are supposed to buy. I had the 2 children and did not insist my wife work. I found myself taking care of more people than I could afford. I changed jobs for more pay with a lot of overtime so we could buy a big house with a big mortgage in the suburbs in a good school district.
This job was dominated first by overwork, overtime, deadlines and feelings of always being behind schedule. Then as the economy imploded with the recession of 2008, job anxiety replaced deadlines as the layoffs started along with dwindling benefits, massive increases in health insurance premiums and pay cuts.
My Time and Life Was Not My Own
My evenings and Saturdays were a blur of either overtime work, or constantly going to events and activities, shuffling mountains of my wife's stuff and expensive and messy home remodeling. I spent most of my Sundays at church or extremely time consuming family gatherings often arriving home after midnight on Sunday having to be at work on time at 7 am the next day.
My money went to pay bills and buy things for other people with nothing left over for me. I was getting farther into debt, experiencing the enormous stress that goes with massive debts. I coped by binge eating junk food all day.
My emotions were ruled by fear, worry, anxiety, frustration, hopelessness and depression.
My limited happiness came in short doses between long stretches of anxiety, tedium, pain, stagnation, frustration and problems.
The early, happy times of the first few months of my marriage quickly turned into massive responsibilities, difficult problems, exhaustion, extreme debt and no free time.
The last years of my marriage I spent suffering and struggling under incredible verbal abuse from my wife that left me depressed, frustrated, anxious, hen-pecked, fearful and even suicidal.
I was sick and tired of my life. Deep down I knew that my happiness and my life mattered. I had enough. I took back my life. I made massive changes by first changing my mindset from thinking I did not matter to thinking that I do matter. I then acted on that belief.
When I finally had enough and started believing that I mattered and that my happiness was important. I was able to leave her.
And this was like a massive weight was lifted off my back and I could finally relax, rest and heal. In the process of healing, I became happier than at any time in my life.
If you truly believe that your happiness matters, you will take back your life and make changes for the better.
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A Happier Man Can Just Ignore or Laugh At
Recognize the power you have to change your life for the better by a combination of expending massive effort and continually, persistently and relentlessly moving toward what you want.
The results on your happiness will astound you.
You can end what needs ending. You can change what needs changing. You can do things that make you feel good in each moment and in all moments forward.
You can give up all bad feelings and emotions like suffering, struggle, rage, frustration, worry, anxiety, lack of confidence and low self esteem.
You can replace all these bad feelings with good ones.
You can take back your life and live your dreams. Life can be good. You can be a happier man.
I appreciate you reading this.
My life has been greatly improved by reading articles on the internet. Without the reading I have done on the internet, I would be a lost man. I needed the guidance of others. The constant reading on how I mattered, changed me.
It can change you.
Explore the website. I love writing articles, telling my story, sharing good information and trying to help you.
Thanks again. This is your life. You can be a happy man too.
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