Low Self Esteem Signs

The self awareness to know low self esteem signs in yourself is the key to having a great life. Not more money, a great career, a fit body or the perfect partner.

Just examine what happens to a person...like you... when they feel bad about themselves.

You can trace back the problems and difficulties in your life to the root cause being how you feel about yourself.  Your low self esteem keeps you trapped.

I believe the major cause of your low self esteem is from the stupidity or tyranny or at least the negative comments of others.

Low Self Esteem Signs

Here are the low self esteem signs or when you think you do not matter:

  1. You stay in relationships that are not good for you.
  2. You stay married to a wife who criticizes you.
  3. You eat too much to deaden the pain.
  4. You set the wrong goals
  5. You cope with problems with hard drinking.
  6. You don't know when to leave your wife.
  7. You do not sleep enough and are chronically tired.
  8. You don't avoid toxic people.
  9. You do not look forward to a better future, you just want to die young.
  10. You believe you deserve to be verbally abused.
  11. You think because some people are better at certain things then they must be a better person than you.
  12. You do not take care of yourself.
  13. You think because some people are better at certain things then they deserve success and you don't.
  14. You don't stand up for yourself.
  15. You think you have to keep doing whatever it is you are doing now.
  16. You think self esteem building will not work for you.
  17. You are afraid of change.
  18. You have low self confidence.
  19. You do not get respect and happiness from others.
  20. You are afraid of what other people will say.
  21. You don't believe you deserve a high quality life.
  22. You are not willing to explore stress management techniques.
  23. You are afraid of what other people will even think.
  24. You think your big man problems will doom you to a mediocre life.
  25. You are not serious about your life.
  26. You think people in authority have the right to tell you what to do.
  27. You think your family or your friends or your wife has a right to tell you what to do.
  28. You don't believe that you can be one of the happier men.

I think the root cause of all human suffering is massive numbers of people with low self esteem signs and not thinking they matter.

I know my low self esteem has caused me all kinds of problems.

The only cure is to do the exact opposite. You have to think you do matter.

You have to raise your self esteem.   You have to think you are worth it.

If the cure to low self esteem is so simple why don't we do this?


From Mark Manson

You're Okay

Start with this mindset and build.


We don't because we have been systematically brainwashed our entire lives to not think properly. I believe that it is not in the interest of the people in power for us to feel good about ourselves. I think they want us to have low self esteem.

If you look at present and past events you see that the people we look to as authorities have been putting us down and keeping us in our place. They use every conceivable trick.  Extreme violence, massive poverty, media manipulation and outright propaganda are all forms of coercion.

Why do they do this?

They need us to have low self esteem signs to keep control and massive power over us to enrich themselves at the expense of us.

They are not like you and I.

You and I are not

  • Interested in having power over millions of people.
  • Going to be stealing wealth from others.
  • Won't be telling lies to people to keep them in their place.
  • Killing some people to give our people something to do.
  • Doing wrong and forcing others to have low self esteem.

You and I are interested in our own lives.  We recognize the low self esteem signs in our lives and do something about it.

We want to have power over ourselves and our lives. We want to stop drinking, smoking, eating, and drugging ourselves into an early grave. We want to stop working at something that gives us no joy. We want to avoid relationships with terrible people and get into relationships that bring us happiness.

We want a great life, free from stress, worry, shame and humiliation. Where we are not constantly bombarded with all the stupid reasons life has to be this stupid way.

Some men have stepped away from all the ridiculous nonsense that we are constantly force fed. These men are living out a life free of low self esteem and actively living their lives exactly how they want to.

A modern happy man is not a king lording over a bunch of minions who laugh at his jokes and do what he says.

Who likes that kind of life?

Me, years after I saw my own low self esteem signs and did something about them. Feeling good and happy.

No, the kind of life I am talking about is nothing like that. My kind of an ideal life is me with as much freedom as possible to live my life, my way. I am not interested in having a bunch of guys that I lord over and who laugh at my non-funny jokes. I want a free lifestyle where I am alone to live as I want and the time I spend with friends is how I have always spend time with them.

When I am with my friends I like to think of us as we are all equals. There is not one who is the boss and we are all lap dogs doing what he says.

No, we each may take that role briefly from time to time. But it is more that we are equals.

I think you will see that happy men tend to shun the normal things that most people think are right.

The happy men seem to live their lives oblivious to what normal men do without low self esteem signs in their lives holding them back and living in fear.

I think back to times when I had the most self esteem. Those were great time, mostly to do with women. Meeting them, seducing them and getting them into bed with ridiculous ease and speed. Sometimes when I think back to those days I am astonished. It is unbelievable.

But the more I think back to those times the more I realize I was acting with extremely high self esteem. And the women noticed. They noticed and did what I wanted. They did what I wanted because it was what they wanted also.

I used to think that the reason I did so well with women at that time was something outside myself. I thought it was the friends I was with. I thought it was the places we were at. I thought it was because I had the exact right amount of alcohol. I thought it was the weather. I thought it had everything to do with circumstances.

But that is all wrong.

It had everything to do with me with high self esteem and self confidence for those times and doing what I wanted.

I just did what I wanted. I approached women and started talking. I approached women and started dancing with them. I approached women and did all kinds of things. These were all just crazy things I did and the women loved all these things. It did not seem to matter what I did or what I said, only that I did and said things.

Can you understand that idea deep in your mind? Can you understand that in order for you to live the high self esteem life you just have to do things and say things and live in a manner that you want?

You do not have to complicate life so much. You do not have to memorize all kinds of lines. You do not have to worry so much about how you look and what you wear.

You just do.

There is no try, just do. - Paraphrasing Yoda

When you have high self esteem you do what is right for you and you only. You do not care what other people say or do or might say or might do. You just act, think and do what you want.

You are not bound by laws, regulations, society or convention.

You do what you want. Your confidence is very high and low self esteem signs are the farthest thing from your mind.

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