What You Are Not

Decide what you are not and your life gets easier, happier and better.  Strip away all the nonsense of what you don't really need to do. You create the time you need to live a great life once you stop doing anything and everything not related to your dreams.

You can only be happy deciding on your dreams and then taking actions toward them.

You have dreams right?  Or have they been crushed?

I know for most of my life, most of my dreams were crushed.  I spent years with no time to dream, or even think about what I wanted.  I was so busy doing things for other people, there was no time for me.


Anything I wanted to do took a seat so far back, there was no chance it would happen for me.

Years of wasted time.  Years of enormous effort applied to things I did not want to do.

Thousands of dollars spent on foolishness that has not helped me and put me further behind.

Doing anything of value that you desire in your life takes time.  And lots of it.  Without excess time, your ability to create anything good in your life is extremely limited and almost impossible.

Time is the critical element.

Most of us struggle against this simple concept.  We have no time.  We are too busy with everything else we have no time for what truly matters to us.

That's why deciding what you are not is such an important life changing task.

Why to Decide What You Are Not

You know you don't have to do decide. 

If you want your life to continue on the path it is on.  Which probably sucks.

You can go on about doing things the way you have always done them.  Getting told what to do.  Getting up and going to bed when told.  Going to school.  Going to work.  Going to church.  Going to another event.  Going to this and going to that. 

Doing this and doing that.

Not liking any of it, but doing it anyway.  We are continually told that bucking up and being a man means doing lots of sh**t you don't want to do.

That's what they say.  That's what they jam down our throats. That's how we're pushed, pulled and dragged into doing all kinds of things we don't like to do and sometimes hate to do that are not good for us.

This can happen on a massive scale. 

Children go to school.  Instead of discovering the joy of knowing how to learn they get bullied and made to conform.

Men used to be enslaved by the draft.  Instead of getting an education and going to work to take care of themselves and their families they went to go to war to become hired killers and get shot at, maimed and killed for the trouble.

It happens on a medium scale. 

Going to college to get a job that barely pays the bills, gives you enormous stress and that you don't even like anyway.

Working enormous amounts of overtime trying to make enough money to survive.

Buying an expensive house and spending even more money tending to it and trying to keep up with the neighbors.

Getting married and bending over backwards for someone who treats you terribly.

Settling down to all this and stopping anything having to do with you having a bit of fun and enjoying yourself.

What You Are Not

Or do you?

Do you have to do any of those things?

And if you mistakenly did any of those things, can you stop doing them or minimize them or move away from doing them?

The evidence is clear that you can have an extraordinary life if you decide what you are not and refuse to do anything not related to that.

Decide What You Are Not
By Prioritizing Who You Are

Great Video from Matthew McConaughey

I love great videos from people who have made the switch from a so-so life to an extraordinary life.  Famous people such as highly-paid, big-time actors know this.  That's why they are so highly paid, why they are famous and why we love them.

We don't love them because they do what they are not.  We love them because they do what they love doing.

Give these questions some serious thought

  • What could you cut out from your life?
  • What could you immediately stop doing?
  • What could you spend far less time on?
  • What you could you throw out?
  • What could you give away?
  • Would you live where you live now?
  • Would you work at what you are working at now?
  • How could you streamline your routines?
  • Which persons could you avoid dealing with?
  • Would you be with the person you are with now?

How would your life change if instead of spending most of it dealing with frustrations, irritations and problems you spent it doing massive amounts of things you wanted to do?

› What You Are Not

The only way I could become the happier man I am today was by leaving my wife.  You might be in the same situation I was in.  I suggest you take a look at my book - Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.

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