Your life can massively improve if you start to live like you matter.
Most of us spend the majority of our lives thinking that we don't matter and see the results of that horrible way of thinking forced on us by the world and the forces in control.
In spite of thousands of years of propaganda and what seems like a constant drumbeat from others that we individually do not matter, you do matter. Your life and your enjoyment of your life is the most important thing to you.
This is a practical way for you to think so your life does not veer off into lack, mediocrity and even misery.
Prior to when I was 22-1/2 years old, I lived as though I didn't matter. My normal state was one of lack and confusion.
Lack was ever-present with the day to day grind of not having anything close to the way I wanted it. I rarely had any money to do anything I wanted to do and I agonized over even the smallest purchase.
I worked out very hard, but could not get in the shape I wanted and mostly got myself very tired, very sore and suffered some frightful injuries.
I was an extremely late bloomer with the ladies and then when I started to have some luck it was very sporadic.
I lacked the free time I craved. In grade school, I was kept busy doing lots of things I had no interest in. In high school, almost all my free time was spend playing a sport I hated - basketball. In college I spend enormous amounts of time studying for my extremely demanding engineering coursework. I never had any time to think or free time to just relax.
I never spoke up and rarely asked for any help from anyone. I never even looked like I needed help so no one really offered me any guidance that was helpful.
I'd have fun with my friends sometimes, but often would find our times together awkward and forced.
Sometimes I did not have a car and when I did it was small and basically an old junker with lots of issues.
I did not work consistently but when I did work, the jobs were incredibly boring and tedious and sometimes extremely physically demanding.
I would have some good conversations with people, but just as often I would go long periods of time without really saying anything.
I didn't spend any time planning out my strategies or do any journaling of my thoughts and success.
I was confused because there might be an occasional time of happiness, excitement, some measure of abundance and a relaxed, stress-free life, but more often there was none of that.
When I turned 22-1/2 years old I basically climbed my way out of the confusion and lack of my youth and into a far better life as a man. I still consider the years from 22.5 to age 29 as my glory years as a man.
Why This Time Period Was So Good for Me:
Even though I was fully enjoying this wildly satisfying bachelor lifestyle, I still had the issues I had as a younger man clouding this great time in my life. There was this past thinking of lack and confusion clouding my judgement and I didn't realize that I had it made, at least compared to where I was before.
I did not fully embrace the concept of "Live Like You Matter."
I felt guilty buying "things" or experiences that would have made life far better even when I had plenty of money available.
I continued to do things "they" said I should do rather than trusting myself and observing the evidence.
I seriously overdid the extent of weight training and cardio. Usually I was either extremely sore, nursing an injury, rundown, getting sick or suffering with a severe lack of energy.
I felt bad about hooking up with women for no-strings attached man-woman fun even when the women loved doing this as much as I did.
I often think back to this special time of my life and realize that just as I was starting to live like I mattered and leading my own life in my own terms and doing the things I loved to do... I stopped.
I fell back into the normal way of thinking, i.e. I did not matter and others mattered more.
I got married and basically slid off a cliff
into an extremely lack-filled, stressful, anxiety laden and mediocre life. I worked extremely long hours at an extremely stress filled job to make more money to try to stay ahead of the enormous bills my wife racked up with her desires. No matter what I did, it was never enough. I never did anything I wanted to do.
This time period ended in extreme misery as my wife verbally abused me for years until I developed enough courage to leave my wife. But even after I left her, I did not really fully embrace the concept of - "Live Like You Matter" until many years later.
With the passage of years I have analyzed the mistakes of my youth and offer you some simple ideas on how you as a man could fully enjoy your life, now and moving forward.
Money does buy happiness. Spending the money you earn to make your life better should be your priority. An overemphasis on saving for the future you when your present life sucks because of lack is a recipe for a horrible uncomfortable and unsatisfying life now.
Even worse is using your money to try to satisfy the enormous wants of other people, especially girlfriends and wives.
When you start making some money, spend it wisely buying things that will make your life much better now and for years to come.
When it comes to your health and fitness, put the emphasis on the evidence in your own life rather than what you learn from others. The men with the best physiques got that way from pharmaceutical help. You need to decide for yourself if this is worth it for you. I'd say no, but this is your life. Assuming you avoid drugs as a way to develop your body, you need to have realistic expectations. You can't compare your non-drug enhanced body to men who take drugs.
Some common sense live like you matter ideas that seem to work for most men:
There are a variety of sources for you to learn from to improve your dating life. Search them out. Some of my favorites are Zan Perrion, Adam Gilad and Brent Smith.
But when you drill down deep enough into their material, it is just ways to become sexier.
Happiness is your natural state. If you're not happy, something is wrong. Actively do things that make you happy and stop doing things that are in conflict with your happiness.
Change your destructive thinking patterns and actively do whatever it takes to create your life to your liking. Live like you matter.A Happier Man › Low Self Esteem Signs › Live Like You Matter
The only way I could become the happier man I am today was by leaving my wife. You might be in the same situation I was in. I suggest you take a look at my book - Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.
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