Is there anything worse than a bad wife?
No. Nothing is as bad.
Nothing will cause you as much pain, frustration, ans misery as being married to a woman who is not good for you.
Any other bad experience will not nearly be as terrible as a bad wife. Not military service even if you absolutely hate it and have to put in your time waiting to get killed for some politician. Not a bad job you hate that doesn't pay enough to pay the bills, with a terrible boss and boring, physically demanding, or tedious work. Not a boring social life. Not even prison.
These horrible situations you can expect. You expect to be killed, or maimed, or to watch your friends die, or have to kill others in the military. Bad jobs abound in this world and we all expect to deal with them for awhile until we land something better. We expect a boring social life if we refuse to put in the effort and get out of comfort zone. You expect prison to a terrible experience.
But in a a marriage you are expecting it to bring you happiness.
type of living is the worst because you are the one
who decided to get married and now you are the one deciding to stay in a miserable marriage. Your life is not your own and you have
decided to stay for the sake of others...her, the kids, a future you in the form of your savings, investments or equity in a home, your family, her family, your married friends, your church and god.
But you have to start to think of what is best for you for a change. All those others will have to adapt themselves to you, not the other way around. If they don't agree with you...the hell with them.
You are not being forced to stay even though you think you are.
Out of control people run rampant over us. Egomaniac politicians find new ways to force us to comply with their whims. Wealthy celebrities lecture us on how we should live. Every time we turn on the TV, listen to the radio, scan our phones and computers someone is whining at us to be worried about something and that "we" need to do something about whatever is the latest issue that you and I had no part in creating.
The more you ignore all this crazy nonsense, the better your life gets.
You, as a decent man, trying to live a good life, will rarely have the capacity to deal with an out of control person, even if the out of control person is your wife.
My out of control bad wife ruined my
life. It was only by leaving her that I have had a chance to recreate
the much happier life I have now.
How can you tell if you have a bad wife?
You tell by how she makes you feel.
Your feelings are everything in spite of most people insisting that you, as a man, should not have feelings or that your feelings don't matter or that everyone else in this blasted world matter more than you do.
Your thoughts, desires, wishes, prerogatives, ideas, what you'd like to do and how you'd like to think are irrelevant to your bad wife. She thinks she owns you.
When I was married my wife felt it was her prerogative to tell me how to be. She was constantly criticizing me, constantly telling me what I should be doing, how I should be doing things and even how I should be thinking.
I didn't like this, but as the years rolled on, I was just so beaten down that I had no energy to resist.
So I tried to do things her
way to try to make her happy. It was just one thing after another. No matter what I did, she wanted me to do it a different way.
But this way of being was killing me. I was a prisoner in my own home being forced to comply with the whims of an out-of-control warden in the form of a bad wife. If I wanted to fry an egg for breakfast she would scream at me to not wake the kids. If I mowed the lawn too short she would confront me out on the lawn and berate me in front of the neighbors. If I used the guest bathroom she would get extremely upset, saying how she wanted to keep it nice for guests.
And this was just the tip of the iceberg for me. I go into great detail on what I went through in my book - Leave Your Wife and Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.
Any type of verbal abuse from your wife should not be tolerated. It just gets worse and worse over time.
From Patricia Evans
From the article -
Verbal abuse includes withholding, bullying, defaming, defining, trivializing, harassing, diverting, interrogating, accusing, blaming, blocking, countering, lying, berating, taunting, put downs, abuse disguised as a joke, discounting, threatening, name-calling, yelling and raging.
The short answer is to leave.
But I know that is not the answer you usually hear.
No one will tell you to just go ahead and leave your wife.
You mostly hear ridiculous things like
I know it seems as if you are forced to stay married.
All of that is stupid garbage stuffed down your throat until you don't know how to think for yourself and wish you were dead.
If you want to become a happier man, you will need to leave a wife who is not good for you.
If you continue to stay with a bad wife, your life will continue to be a living hell. It will not get better, it will get worse.
Your only hope is to leave.A Happier Man › Verbal Abuse of Men › Bad Wife
The only way I could become the happier man I am today was by leaving my wife. You might be in the same situation I was in. I suggest you take a look at my book - Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.
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