Happier men do not do all the things unhappy men do. One of the easiest ways to improve your life is to avoid whatever it is that makes it worse.
Of course that is a lot easier to say than do since the world is set up to keep you in your place.
You spend most of your time, energy and money running around taking care of others, doing their bidding, bending over backwards, worrying about the wrong things and exhausting yourself.
You are manipulated, coerced, lied to and sometimes forced to live a life that is as difficult as possible.
But you don't have to live that way.
You can have a great life.
Not after you take care of everyone else first. Not after you achieve a bunch of goals someone else set for you. Not after getting to a certain age. Not when you win something. Not when you retire. Not when "they" say you can.
Your life can be thought of as moments strung together. The more of those moments that you consider great or good, the better your life. The more of those moments you do not enjoy, that are really a struggle, that you find painful for whatever reason, the worse your life is.
If you have some horrible moments, those radiate outward impacting all other moments negatively.
When my wife screamed at me for a few minutes, it radiated outward, affecting me for long periods afterward.
When I listened to her long lectures on all my faults, my self-worth plummeted.
When I did not think highly of myself, I was pushed around and susceptible to the wrong influences.
When I was in the wrong job, I was worried, frustrated and anxious.
When I was involved with the wrong activities and groups, I dreaded going, hated being there and only looked forward to it being over.
When I wasn't lifting heavy weights in the gym and staying active, my weight ballooned. I became weaker, softer and less able to do for myself.
You need to continually focus your attention on you, your needs, your desires and helping the people closet to you. And focus on the your immediate issues, rather than the distant future.
This is the only way you can have a good life.
Of course, you need to do some future planning for yourself and of course, you can be a good person and a good neighbor.
You will find that you have no way to deal with the larger issues that they want us to care about. This is just a method to get us to squander our time and energy on things that do not matter.
Favorite quotes -
1. Re-focus on your goals and Mission.
So if you haven’t yet already, stop focusing on your nation, culture, race, or whatever, and instead…
Don't worry about things you cannot control.
Bring your attention back to you and your life. You will have a great life.
Happier men do not allow limiting beliefs to keep you trapped in a mediocre or poor life.
Usually these beliefs are extremely powerful and keep you trapped in a cycle of doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
Once I eliminated the belief that I had to keep taking care of an ex-wife, my happiness, peace and prosperity have increased beyond my wildest dreams.
Once I eliminated the belief that I did not matter, I was able to start making massive improvements in my life. I've changed jobs, I've had adventures, I've reconnected with old friends, I've made new friends, I've traveled and most importantly of all, I left my wife.
It's a mistake to wait for someone else to do something.
Your happiness starts when you do something.
You only have control of what you can do. You have enormous power over your own life. The answers are inside you.
The only way I could become the happier man I am today was by leaving my wife. You might be in the same situation I was in. I suggest you take a look at my book - Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.
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