But most of us don't do that. We spend most of our precious
time doing everything but what makes us happy. Continuously staying
busy bending over backwards trying to please others and denying what you
want to do.
I did all that for most of my life.
stopped all that crazy behavior years ago and now focus and concentrate
on doing whatever makes me happiest and eliminating what makes me
miserable, frustrated and unhappy.
Sometimes you spend so much of
your life doing things that make you unhappy that you do not really have
a good idea what happiness means to you.
You need to stop doing what makes you unhappy so you have time and mental clarity to find out what makes you happy.
What Makes Me Unhappy
I avoid all these happiness killers
Having too many kids that I cannot afford. 2 is plenty.
Pets. Tough one, but too much extra work for me.
Hard Work. You have to work hard, but only here and there. Not all the time.
Guilt. Society, families, friends, the government and religions use guilt to get us to do all kinds of things we don't want to do. F...them. I just laugh at all the ridiculous guilting they do.
Manipulations are similar to guilt. Once you become self aware, you can tell when someone is trying to manipulate you to do something they want you to do. I don't get upset about this, I just don't get manipulated.
Injuries. I have them now so I am suffering quite a bit.
Debt. I get in and out of debt. The ultimate goal is to have minimal debt that is easy to handle. Right now my debt is manageable. Not quite at the easy to handle range.
Bad Mistakes. I've made massive bad mistakes. I've learned.
Church. It's just such a time sink and makes you feel bad.
Family Gatherings. I love these as long as they are not too time consuming.
Long Hours of work. I worked years of 50 and 60 or more hour weeks with nothing to show for it. 40 is plenty. Less is better.
Big bills. Some bills are ridiculously high. Cell phones, utility bills, car repairs, car insurance and rent. I pay all these but don't like it.
Excessive responsibility. You don't have to do everything.
Discomfort. I hate uncomfortable anything and go out of my way to avoid it.
Having no money. This is huge. Being broke makes me extremely unhappy.
Free Things That Makes Me Happy
Me happy and smiling at work. Had a productive day and about to leave work for a fun rest of the day
Making fun of other people’s names.
Poking fun at other people...gently.
Ridiculing anyone in authority...without going over the top and getting on their bad side.
Taking the absurd side in serious discussion.
Disagreeing with others even if I agree with them.
Pointing out the absurd side of beliefs.
Reminiscing funny stories from my past and still laughing...out loud...years later.
Sitting in the sun.
Picked up surroundings.
A long enough walk in nature that my mind chatter stops and I get inspired ideas.