How to Be Ready to Leave

You have to be ready to leave whatever bad, poor, mediocre or terrible situation or circumstance you are in.

The mindset, and ability of being prepared to leave is crucial to your freedom and your happiness.

If you cannot easily leave something you are a basically a prisoner.

Without being ready to leave, the actual leaving is, if not impossible, is extremely difficult and potentially disastrous. You have to actually think through and do things to prepare. It is not just thinking.

Thinking is important. But you also have to be doing...planning and preparing.

Be Ready to Leave Your Wife

In the months prior to me leaving my wife, I was getting ready to leave.

I had

  • A suitcase packed and hidden in my office at work.
  • Clothes and necessities hidden in my car.
  • Cash hidden in my car and in my wallet.
  • Started looking for other places to live.
  • A separate bank account.
  • A separate credit card.

From Steve Pavlina

Why People End Their Relationship

Good information from Steve.  I ended my marriage because of abuse, unacceptable behavior and incompatibility.

You will find that once you start this process it just becomes a simple habit that makes your life much easier.  All these things, you should just do anyway.

It is not that you cannot enjoy what you are doing now and where you are at now. It is that you are taking steps now to make your future easier and even better.

Let's start with a few simple ways to be ready to leave

Park Your Car Properly

I try to situate my car so I do not have to back up that much. This really helps in crowded parking lots. You can avoid accidents much more easily if you minimize backing up.

I never park my car in a way where it is inaccessible anymore.

I went to a big college football game many years ago. The people who live by the stadium let you park in their driveways and lawns for a fee. They pack a lot of cars into a small area. They had me park my car way in the back. When my friends and I got back to the car after the game, there were cars in front of my car and no way for me to get my car out. I was trapped.

We left and came back a few hours later. But what if I had to leave immediately?

I always pay more for a better spot now or park farther away to avoid this type of extreme frustration.

Have Plenty of Cash On You

You need cash, actual dollars on you.  Debit cards and credit cards are fine for the convenience.  But you need cash too.  The more the better.

Avoid maxing out your credit card.  Credit only helps you if you credit available. You want to save the credit for when you really need it.

Gas Tank Full

As soon as it gets to half full I fill it up. Besides being prepared to leave you are also always ready for bad weather, it is less expensive each time because you are just topping off the tank.

It is faster to only need to fill part of a tank. Plus, I have found that the convenience store where I get most of my gas is also the best place to buy milk, eggs, butter, onions, bananas and a few other things. This food is the freshest and the least expensive.

Bills Paid

I hate having these lingering bills around. I can leave town for awhile and not have to worry about bills that I owe. I do not have the stress of a pile of bills to pay because there is no pile.

Laundry Clean

I never have my best clothes not available to wear. I want to be able to put on my favorite clothes and go. I always look good because I always have my best clothes available. I try to throw out clothes as soon as I determine they are not good for me anymore. I want to be ready to leave to see a girl, to travel or to have fun. It is not just about survival, it is about life.

Home Stocked 

I never want to be forced to go out to get food in an emergency. I want to be able to survive for a number of days if I am at home.

Well Rested

If I lose sleep for whatever reason I make up for it as soon as possible. I want to feel good all the time and be ready for whatever comes up. There will be times where you are up late or up early for good and bad reasons. I am prepared for these times by being well rested most of the time. You do not want to live in a state of chronic exhaustion.


I want to be feeling good and healthy all the time. I do not want to have the feeling of thirst during a normal day. Water is readily available, so I readily drink it and feel good all the time. If a situation arises where I cannot get water for a period of time, I do not worry about it, I have drank enough already.

When you think you have to leave your wife, keep a bag packed in your car and a bag packed and hidden at work.

I knew the end was near and wanted to be ready. This being ready to leave a bad marriage made the leaving seem like it was an option for me instead of nearly impossible.  If you are in a bad marriage and deep in your heart you know you have to leave, then you prepare and be ready to leave.

These are all simple things that you can do that do not cost that much.  You will feel good preparing for your own freedom. You cannot rely on anyone else to take care of you.

Being able to leave anything is the critical component of freedom.

If you cannot

  • Leave your job, or
  • Leave your spouse, or
  • Leave your country,

How can you be free?

It is far easier to stay, to not change, continuing to live in a miserable situation, than it is to leave.

People stay in unbelievably terrible situations long past the point where they should have left because they are not ready or prepared to leave.

They have created a prison for themselves.

This is exactly the wrong way to thing about it.

When the Hurricane is bearing down on you, do you hope the government will protect you or do you grab your already prepared bag, jump in your gassed up car and leave?

When your spouse is abusing you, do you hope that she will stop and start being nice to you or do you walk out the door and never look back.

It you cannot stand what you are doing for a living, do you just keep going to work everyday and living with the constant indignity of dealing with a job you hate or do you start the process of looking for other work or doing research into other ways to make a living.

Being ready to leave is the essence of freedom.


  • Take control of your life.
  • Decide for you.
  • Don't allow other people to make decisions for you.

You improve your life by being ready to leave.

I still love the old singers singing about leaving.

› Ready to Leave

The only way I could become the happier man I am today was by leaving my wife.  You might be in the same situation I was in.  I suggest you take a look at my book - Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.

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