Start to create your ideal life. You only have one, you know. If anything is not right in your life, start making whatever changes are necessary. Waiting will not make it easier.
What do you want to stop doing? Who do you want to stop dealing with? What makes your life hard? What causes the most anxiety? What do you want to avoid? What do you absolutely hate?
What do you want to start adding in? What makes you laugh? What makes you happy when you think about doing it? And what do you absolutely love?
These are all critical questions that you need to spend considerable time asking yourself and even more time figuring out what the answer is.
You'll say...I don't have time for that. I'm too busy. I've got too many responsibilities and time commitments to spend many hours at a time over many days, maybe weeks, maybe months, to think about my life.
Exactly.
That's why you have very far from your ideal life.
Since you don't have time for you, the way your life is going is not going to be good for you.
Or another way, the time you spend on examining your preferences is going to provide you much more of a chance at an ideal life than worrying about other people and waiting for them to change or provide you something.
Like any other good thing in your life, determining how to create your ideal life takes thinking, planning and then acting on those thoughts and plans.
Yes, this is going to be difficult, time consuming and energy draining.
It may get extremely expensive and messy if you determine you have to end a marriage.
You are going to have to expend massive amounts of time and energy to change careers and move to a different location.
You may even have to deal with other people actively
trying to stop you tying to create your ideal life if you discuss this with the wrong people. A hint on this is to keep most of your plans and ideas to yourself.
So, at minimum, it is not going to be easy.
You might not even know where to begin.
It
is simplest to do plenty of eliminating first. Cut out the toxic
people and frustrating situations. Anything not good, has to go.
But let's take a step back. Why should you listen to me about this? What do I know?
My Marriage was Killing Me
If you can relate at all to this miserable life, you need my book - Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.
But I got past all that stupidly miserable type of life. Persistently, relentlessly pushing myself toward the great life I enjoy now and all of us should have.
My Most Difficult Relationship
My Career & Finances
My Kids
My Health
My Social Life & Fun
My contribution to the world
My life is so satisfying and so pleasant. Sometimes I cannot believe how far I've come.
How to Create Your Ideal Life from Mike Cernovich -
40 Rules of Life I Learned Before I Turned 40
Favorite quotes -
There is no singular life purpose. You — whatever this “you” is — will change over time, and so will your preferences. Convincing people to seek their life purpose has led millions in the wrong direction. Stay busy, be useful to others. A sense of purpose will arrive.
View yourself as the most important person in the world. If
you are not healthy, wealthy, and wise, how can you leave an impact on
the world? If you’re mindset isn’t in order, how can you be a good
parent, pastor, teacher, public servant, or even informed citizen. Make yourself great.
My life is not perfect. I have a few old issues. Issues I have been dealing with my entire life.
My Main Issues
But these struggles are minor to what I have been through in the past. And since I have determined what they are so clearly, I can take action to solve them.
Your Work & Finances
This is first, because earning enough money to take care of yourself without relying on others is the key to having a good life.
Your Body & Presence
Taking care of yourself is also critical, but it is second, because without enough money, you cannot hope to take care of yourself very well.
Here is a short list of behaviors and actions to avoid to give yourself a better chance to create your ideal life:
Some of the common themes in these mistakes is...too. Meaning you are doing too much for you that is not good for you.
The effort to create your ideal life is huge, no doubt.
But the reward is even larger.
The only way I could become the happier man I am today was by leaving my wife. You might be in the same situation I was in. I suggest you take a look at my book - Leave Your Wife & Become a Happier Man with the 3 Step System.
Do you have a comment about this or something to add? Share it!